Today I met with a friend whose husband I met at Japanese class. He doesn’t go to class anymore because he got a job and has to work instead of study Japanese. His wife, M, isn’t my best friend, but I see her once in a while to sorta keep in touch. I think she thought it was a little inappropriate for her husband and me to be friends, so she insisted on being in the loop, with the result that I now keep in touch with her and never get to see her husband anymore.
We haven’t seen each other in months because her trip to visit her in-laws happened directly before my trip back to see my parents. Then once I got back, it was a little while before I thought to get back in touch with friends here because we were trying to get ready to send Lolli to a new hoikuen (daycare). But finally, we got to see each other today.
My friendship with her is a bit strange because we don’t really have much to talk about past the superficial stuff. However, we’re both pretty friendly people and our conversations still seem to go smoothly, but sometimes she asks me some random questions about my life that seem misplaced and strange.
Today’s random question was: Do you fight with your husband and what do you fight about?
I feel like questions like this are asked because the person asking wants to talk about some kind of issue in their own lives and it’s a good opening line, so I asked her what kind of things she and her husband fight about. The answer felt like she was answering an interview question, where you are asked a tough question and you admit some kind of minor fault that still somehow makes you seem like a normal person they want to hire. Her answer was that she doesn’t like how long he stands in front of the open refrigerator staring at the contents, and that he doesn’t like it when she speaks too much Japanese at home because he still has trouble understanding everything. All in all, she proclaimed them minor things to argue over and in general they have pretty good communication.
It made me wonder if there was something else she wanted to talk about, but was too embarrassed at the last minute to say it.
Maybe I should invite her out drinking and see if that opens her up a little more.